by Danielle Andrews Sunkel
I have been apart of one surprise wedding and I think I was more nervous about it than the couple was!
The couple held their surprise wedding at the bride's family farm. It had the look and feel of any other wedding, complete with a tent, beautiful decor, a band and a full, catered meal. Everyone invited was happy and excited with the surprise. Phew!
Planning a surprise wedding is both easier and more challenging. It is easier because the couple doesn"t have to deal with everyone offering their input on their wedding. It is more difficult because everyone in the know must be trusted to keep the secret
Why a Surprise Wedding?
- To avoid interference.
- So guests do not bring gifts.
- To keep the wedding more casual.
Who should know?
- If either of you have children, you must give them time to deal with this life change. This marriage will effect their lives too, so they MUST be in the know.
- Parents will be very hurt if they are left out.
- Anyone who may have a heart attack or other physical distress at the emotional surprise should be forewarned as well.
- Anyone coming from a distance who may otherwise decline the party invitation.
How to hold a Surprise Wedding?
- The couple or their families invite guests on the pretense of another event such as a birthday party, engagement party, reunion or some other event. My couple invited everyone to an Engagement Party.
- Announce the wedding with an entrance sign, or have the MC or Wedding Officiate make the announcement.
- Give everyone a few minutes to digest the information and make sure a photographer or videographer are there to capture the guests' reactions,
Tips
- If you want guests to be on time they need to have a reason to be there. Tell them there will be special entertainment or that it is a surprise party.
- Be prepared for food sensitivities, special diets and allergies. If you can covertly get these details, great, if not, order lots of alternative meals from the caterer.
If you are considerate of your loved ones' feelings, surprise wedding can be a lot of fun and alleviate a ton of stress for everyone involved. as with all weddings, it just comes down to great planning!
Thank you to Megan Welker for the use of this fabulous photo.
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